Behaviour is a message. I help parents to hear it.
Rooted in the Anna Freud tradition, focused on your family today.
When you don’t understand your child's behaviour there is often more going on beneath the surface.
After over 25 years working with children and their parents as a psychotherapist, and my own parenting experiences, I’ve come to learn that…
A child’s developmental challenges are often rooted in our own.
The changes that you’re looking are closer than they feel.
My practice is dedicated to helping parents to both hear and understand their child, and then change what happens next.
“Whoever knows how to listen to them can learn the truth.”
Hermann Hesse, Wandering 1920
When you’ve tried everything and nothing is changing.
You’ve read the books. You’ve done the parenting courses. You’ve listened to the podcasts.
And still your child is angry, or withdrawn, or anxious, or simply out of reach. This doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
It may mean your child’s behaviour is trying to say something that hasn’t yet been heard.
Behaviour is a message.
You’re here because most children can’t put what they feel into words. So instead they show us, through meltdowns, silence, defiance or worry.
When we stop asking “How do I make this stop?” and start asking “What is my child trying to tell me?” that’s when things begin to change.
That shift from judgement to curiosity is what opens the door to understanding, connection and growth.
I help parents make sense of their child’s emotional world, so you no longer have to work it all out on your own.
You may be here because
Your child seems angry, withdrawn, anxious or impossible to reach
Your conversations tend to end in a row, or in silence
You lie awake wondering whether your child needs therapy
You feel you’ve tried everything
Your home feels tense, as if everyone is walking on eggshells
You swing between guilt, frustration, confusion and not knowing what to do next
How I can help
Together, we look beneath the behaviour: at your child’s emotional world, their developmental history and the family around them
We explore how past and present experiences may be shaping what’s happening now. Then we find ways of responding that help your child move forward again and help you feel close again
You stay at the centre of this process. We think together, and we decide together
If your child would benefit from their own support, this can be arranged within my wider practice
What can change
You finally understand why your child behaves the way they do
Fewer battles, because you’re responding to the cause, not the symptom
Less guilt and more compassion, for your child and for yourself
Your child starts moving forward again
You feel steadier, more confident and back in charge
Home feels calmer, and you feel close to your child again
25 years as a child and adolescent psychotherapist
Psychoanalytically trained in the Anna Freud tradition
Flexible, practical and parent-centred
Read about Inji’s unique approach
What your child’s struggles may be telling you about your own story
Our children’s difficulties often echo something from our own early lives. This isn’t because we’ve done anything wrong. It’s how families work. Understanding these patterns can be one of the most powerful ways to help your child, and yourself.